This last year away from my blog has been a year of unexpected changes. 2019 was uncomfortable yet transformative. I stepped away from my blog because I didn’t feel inspired. There’s a lot of overwhelming and discouraging noise online. This noise made it hard for me to get creative. Over the years I’ve become tired of the inauthenticity of the influencer world. With many other things going on, I became consumed with everything but my blog, my podcast, and my passions. Stepping away was a no brainer.
In 2019 I started a new job, bought a condo and traveled to Morocco, Madrid & London. None of this was without its hiccups, anxiety, and stress. At the beginning of 2019, I was in the job from hell with the manager from hell. It was one of the most stressful times of my life. That job was one of the worst jobs I’ve had and the day I left, without another job, was one of the best days of my life. I didn’t have a plan but I was so happy to go. Within a month, a job found me. Although it wasn’t my ideal position at the time, it’s turned out good for me. It’s helped me grow. A few months into my new position I decided to buy a condo. I never planned to buy a condo and I wasn’t prepared for the stress the process brought. Although I wasn’t ready and this wasn’t planned, I leaned into it.
I’d begun planning Morocco in 2018. London & Madrid came much later in the plan. To go on a trip with people you don’t know, to a country unlike anything you’ve ever experienced, is life-changing. I subscribe to the, “Don’t wait on anyone to make moves” mindset. This wasn’t my first group travel trip but it is the first time I’d been to Africa. It was a beautiful trip and definitely a practice in patience for me. During and after this trip I felt so inspired. Everything about London, Morocco & Spain was beautiful. It was inspiring to be around creatives in London who were so positive. We drank, laughed, relaxed and enjoyed life. I booked my Morocco trip through For The Love Of Travel. The trip showed me I need to travel more. These globetrotters were so well-traveled, well drank (haha) and very sweet. At the end of the trip, I spent a day in Madrid by myself. Madrid was beautiful. I stayed across the street from the Del Prado, so of course, I spent hours looking at the art. I found a cute place named Taberna Mas Al Sur where I ate paella and drank THEE BEST sangria I’ve ever had. This trip inspired me to be creative, think outside the box and elevated my intentions for 2020.
My advice for love, friendship and familial relationships is this:
- Never be afraid to leave an of relationship that doesn’t respect you and treat you the way right. Some people are in your life to teach you lessons and broaden your horizons. When it’s time to let them go, LET. THEM. GO!
- ALWAYS trust your gut/instincts. That bitch is right!
- Create boundaries and protect your energy. Saying no may be uncomfortable. Creating boundaries will be uncomfortable. Yes it’s hard to say no to the family but sometimes you need to. You can’t complain about boundaries you don’t create.
- Saying, “I’m not investing in being in a relationship. If it happens it happens,” is bullshit. Do you say that about your career, body goals or anything else you want? You invest time and energy in everything you do. Why wouldn’t you invest time in finding a significant other if that’s what you want? Investing time doesn’t equal desperation. Knowing what you want isn’t desperation. In fact, doing the opposite is emotionally unavailable, unhealthy and toxic. There’s nothing wrong with being open to love. The emotionally stunted or unavailable will try to make you believe different.
This last year has taught me through all the ebbs and flows of life, if you keep on living things will work out. You will lose a lot but gain even more. Although life may not work out how you hoped or planned, life comes apart to come together in a new and exciting way.